Dear Friends

When I call, text, or message you to hang out or to see how you're doing - I genuinely want to hang out and I genuinely care how you're doing.

If you really "miss" me so much - you could try the above.

I actively listen to you talk about everything going on in your life. I give you input and ask open ended questions. The least you could do is give me the courtesy of more than a blank stare when it's my turn to talk; I can tell you're not listening.

I willingly drive to go see you, and drive us around. Despite tight funds, I do this often. So when your excuse for not coming out to see me is a complaint about $15 worth of gas when you eat out almost daily, it's insulting.

If I'm throwing a party, don't ask me who all is going to be there. We are adults and if you don't like someone you can get the hell over it.

Why is it that you never make the plans? (and then some of you get mad when we don't "stay in touch".) Seems a little one-sided.
Oh yeah, and what's with the complaining about the plans that you insisted I make?
If you don't want to hang out, just say so.

If you call me, and ask me to hang out, and I can't because I have a shift at work, it doesn't mean I don't want to hang out. It means that I have a shift at work. So don't get pissy with me, or call me a "bad friend" - try making plans for future with me, or talk to me another time?

Love,
Pepper